Then there are those who can't see themselves in light of what God thinks of them, because they are willfully blind. These are like those who sit at the bar stool on Friday nights with their favorite drink, watching "light" porn on the TV over the head of the bartender, and gossip about the girl he just had a quick one night stand with a couple of nights ago, with the buddy sitting next to him; and gulps down the last of his drink before heading home to his wife and kids. You can imagine other scenarios; such as the men at hunting camp, or the road trip... These men laugh at and ridicule the women they've ruined, gotten pregnant, helped get abortions; then go home to their respectable tidy lives. Many of them in high places.
Then the respected woman of town who lives a good upstanding life for the public while living her own version of Peyton Place. She condemns anyone else's failures and sins in order to hide her own dirty laundry. It's an old strategy, but a proven one that works. It gets her a following of other's of like mind; out to put on the best front for the public. The false fronts, big smiles, and coy maneuvers eventually destroy the persons true personality completely and your left looking at a mannequin, a talking puppet. Sadly by the time they get to this place, they cannot see themselves as they really are; they have self destructed. One of the most dangerous places to be for a woman who wants to never become like this, is the women's community action programs and "coffee brunches". Do I hate women? No, but I know them, and how they go about cutting somebody to pieces with their mouths, and nothing is beneath them to do it. These gatherings become a den of laughing hyenas, and Parana.
You may be someone reading this and knowing exactly what I'm talking about, because it's been done to you. It takes time, but you can heal from it, and learn to stay away from them for your own sanity and self respect. I know this is too much truth and reality for a lot of people-so be it.
Everyone has a bit of Pharisee in them, but a great many will never allow themselves to see what is really in their hearts. If they read the bible, it would read them, which is also why so few do. How many Christians go to church every Sunday, with not a bible in sight, the main topic is the social programs, and the next pot luck dinner. Think about it; they have become social gatherings only. I have no time to waste on such stuff.
Jesus gave an example of these kind of people:
Luk 18:10 Two men went up into the temple to pray; the one a Pharisee, and the other a publican.
Luk 18:11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.
When we open our hearts to Jesus, and give him our lives, the bible tells us:
2Co 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
Lets break this down:
"a. If anyone: This is a promise for anyone. Anyone! It doesn’t matter what class, what race, what nationality, what language, or what level of intelligence. Anyone can be a new creation in Jesus Christ!
b. Is in Christ: This is a promise for anyone who is in Christ. This is not a promise for those who are in themselves, or in the religion of men, or in someone or something else. This is for those in Christ!
c. He is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Paul here teaches the great principle of regeneration. Jesus Christ changes those who come to Him by faith, and who are in Christ. The saved are not “just forgiven.” They are changed into a new creation.
i. It is unfair for us to expect those who are not in Christ to live as if they were a new creation. However, it is not unfair to expect a changed life from people who say they are Christians! “I know no language, I believe there is none, that can express a greater or more thorough and more radical renewal, than that which is expressed in the term, ‘a new creature.’“ (Spurgeon)
ii. However, being a new creation doesn’t mean that we are perfect. It means that we are changed, and that we are being changed.
d. Who makes us a new creation? This is something God alone can do in us. This isn’t just “turning over a new leaf” or “getting your act together.” But the life of a new creation is not something God does for us, but in us. So, we are told to put off . . . the old man, and to put on the new man which was created according to God, in righteousness and true holiness (Eph_4:22-24).
i. Being a new creation is a gift from God received by faith. “God is surely the author of the second creation as he was of the first.” (Harris) “A phrase which argueth the greatest change imaginable, and such a one as can be wrought in the soul by no other power than the power of God.” (Poole)
ii. The work of a new creation is even greater than God’s work of creating the world. “My brethren, it was more difficult, if such terms are ever applicable to Omnipotence, it was more difficult to create a Christian than to create a world. What was there to begin with when God made the world? There was nothing; but nothing could not stand in God’s way - it was at least passive. But, my brethren, in our hearts, while there was nothing that could help God, there was much that could and did oppose him. Our stubborn wills, our deep prejudices, our ingrained love of iniquity, all these, great God, opposed thee, and aimed at thwarting thy designs . . . Yes, great God, it was great to make a world, but greater to create a new creature in Jesus Christ.” (Spurgeon)
iii. Living as a new creation is something God works in us, using our will and our choices. So, we must both receive the gift of being a new creation, and be challenged to live the life of a new creation. But it is God’s work in us that we must submit to. This reminds us that at its root, Christianity is all about what God has done for us, not what we can or should do for God.
“Beloved, if you have no more religion than you have worked out in yourself, and no more grace than you have found in your nature, you have none at all. A supernatural work of the Holy Ghost must be wrought in every one of us, if we would see the face of God with acceptance.” (Spurgeon)
e. All things have become new is the language of God’s perfect, recreated work (Rev_21:5). God wants to do a new thing in our life!
i. “The man is not only mended, but he is new made . . . there is a new creation, which God himself owns as his workmanship, and which he can look on and pronounce very good.” (Clarke)"
In situations of being misunderstood, and judged by ignorant people it is vital to stay, very close to Jesus, and read His word daily, because it is the only thing that will keep you, and give you the strength in your spirit to stand against the attacks that will come your way; even by those close to you in your family.
If you are in a place of being misunderstood, judged and condemned; talk to the Lord, pour out your heart to Him and allow Him to be your shield and buckler in every battle you face. The power of the Holy Ghost will give you all you need to get through it in victory.